Why do we let go, when we really care?

A wise person once told me that I should never let myself believe that there are things which are impossible…
To never take it to heart when someone tells me, you are not going to make it, because you’re too weak… I mean, how can anyone decide and comment on how much of yourself you can give, and how much you can’t?

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But only recently I realized that it is one thing to listen, when someone is trying to set you down on your ass, when your head starts to swing in the clouds, and quite another thing is when you alone, decide that that your ass will never move too far from a safe place.

Recently I started to think of topics related to why people are still so painfully limited and are afraid to take risks. Or, why I, myself am still limited, telling myself that, it’s not for me, it’s impossible to accomplish, I will not handle it, leave it as it is, it’s hard, after all that’s life and it is evidently meant to be…

Well, it’s the famous “it’s just meant to be”… the most universal saying in this world, the most significant of all the excuses and the biggest lie you can tell – yourself or someone else…

But you can influence what happens in your life. Yes, there are aspects there is little we can do about… but in most cases, your conscious decisions should shape your resume.

I understand what it means to let go. I understand what it means to give up and go the easy way and I admit – probably, this is the easiest way to go. A combination of being lazy with the excuse “because it’s meant to be” – seems to be the perfect pretext. I understand it all, because until recently, I used to do that too. But now I can say that despite the fact that it is the easiest and safest way, it is also the worst way.

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There comes a point in one’s life – when you lose something, or something unexpected happens, or simply it is hitting your own consciousness that you might now have a completely different life, be a different person if you do not let go at some point… It hits you how much you’ve screwed up in life as opportunities passed by you… how many people you consciously gave up on… And then this consciousness does not give you peace to the extent that again, the caring begins. We begin to fight, but rather learn to fight, step by step. We wake, with this awareness, how much time is wasted. Where we could be now, in life, if our decisions would turn out differently. And this impulse is usually so strong that we don’t allow ourselves to lose second time in the same battle. The first blow will hurt, and as much as we want to avoid it at all cost, it can happen again.

Resolutions – whether it’s related to professional life or private life, or at least so that you will not eat sweets during the week – do not mean anything if you are not going to start using your willpower. Does everyone have it? Yes of course. Only that some treat resolutions as word of honor, and others… well, others have them nowhere, and usually, after a short time they return to their old habits. Until the realization of who they would be, where would they be, if they hadn’t let go.

Why do we let go? Because most often we tell ourselves that it is not for us that we are too weak that we cannot do it, and so it is meant to be… “I can’t lose weight because I have thick bones and I can not help it… I’m too weak for a better job, so therefore fate wants me to struggle in the place where I work. The girl I love is unattainable for me, so apparently it must be that we have to live separately.”

What do I think? It’s all bullsh*t.

You know how to find out how much you can do? Start with four simple steps that I often practice when the syndrome of low self esteem and under-valuation hits me.

1. Are you lying down? Sit up…

2. If you are sitting – Stand up!

3. If you are standing – start walking!

4. If you walk – start to run…

It’s your decision what direction your life will take you… what you’ll do… what people will be a part of it…

It is you who sets the boundaries, impossibilities, and it’s you who decides whether you go beyond them or if you just want to be stuck…

It’s you who has to realize that coincidences do not exist and no magic will do things for you…
If you want to make progress, or change something that seems to be impossible and unattainable at the moment, if you dream of something so much that you can not stop thinking about it… but there’s nothing you’re doing, you do not change anything and quite frankly you are just standing in one place… I mean, You are telling yourself that this is not for you. And there is nothing worse than limiting yourself with your own train of thought… Unfortunately – sometimes our own head tries to trick us…

But, this little damn thing, beating on the left side of your chest, from conception to death – never fools you…

This is  why I do not like giving up… Because every time I make a forced decision and give up, or do something in spite of myself, at the same time telling myself that “it’s meant to be”… The heart saying all the time, you could have done it and you haven’t… you chose not to, you went the easy way instead of fighting.

It just so happens that sometimes one movement, one decision can turn your life by 180 degrees. And perhaps it is this decision, and this movement, which you are always preventing yourself from doing, is the one which will bring the best change…

Do not let go… Do not give up…

And for nothing in this world, do not allow ANYTHING to limit you in life…

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